I love long weekends! That one extra day off makes a big difference! This Memorial Day, we are going to visit family and friends in Florida, and I’m so looking forward to a nice little getaway.
However, although I love to travel, I experience anxiety around it. I think I’ve now figured out the reason why. I’m reading a book right now called, You Are What You Think. It’s a wonderful book written by a psychologist. The book is also biblically based, which is pretty cool. I just started it a couple of days ago, and I’m really enjoying it.
The theme of the book is self-talk and how our belief systems dictate our actions and emotions. I know how true this is in my own life. One person can interpret a situation in a positive light and have a pleasant experience from it. While another person can interpret the same situation in a negative way, and have a very stressful experience from it.
In the same sense, the book talks about how we react when our lives feel out of control. Given the crazy, hectic world we live in, most of us feel out of control at some point. The author states, “We respond one of two ways when we are confused by our feelings and emotions. We either become overwhelmed, allowing our feelings to spill over onto those around us and draw them into a confusing drama; or we become over-controlling, holding a tight reign on any expression of our feelings or emotions while also attempting to carefully control everything that goes on around us.”
The book has a quiz to figure out which type of person you are, and, not surprisingly, I’m the over-controlling type. (I’m sure some of you that know me well might agree.) The more stressed I become, the more I like to control things. I follow a to-do list, I like routine, I’m a planner, I like to follow a schedule, spontaneity kind of freaks me out. These are all typical characteristics.
It’s clear to me that this is a huge reason why I get stressed and anxious to travel. I’m leaving my comfortable routine and being forced to relinquish control.
I’m putting my transportation in someone else’s hands, I’m putting my meals in someone else’s hands, I’m putting my living environment in someone else’s hands. Quite honestly, this stresses me out a little bit.
I worry that I won’t pack the right stuff, that I’ll forget something, that there won’t be restaurants that can accommodate my dietary needs, etc. Some of you may relate.
But now that I know this about me, I can work on it. So, leading up to this weekend, I’m going to relax and focus on the things of this trip that I’m excited about: warm weather, sunshine, the beach, friends/family, relaxation.
I also recently subscribed to a meditation podcast called My Meditation Station that even has a meditation session for travel. How cool is that?
Finally, I will be following all of the tips in my article, How to Travel with IBS. I’ll be sure to have snacks for the plane, supplements, plenty of water, and a relaxed mindset. If you struggle with IBS, then be sure to check out this article for great recommendations to make your travel experience more pleasant.
So, whatever you might be doing this weekend, whether it’s traveling, hosting guests, or spending time with friends and family, I hope you are able to relax and enjoy the moments. Have a safe, happy, and fun Memorial Day!